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  1. John Monyjok Maluth says:

    Robert, this was a heartfelt and honest review. I could feel the truth in your words about how panic can destroy what patience might save. I’ve seen couples in my community go through the same storm, where one person is fighting to rebuild while the other is already drifting away. It makes me wonder though.

    Do you think programs like this could still help when love feels one-sided, or does healing have to start with both hearts open? As we say back home, one hand cannot tie a bundle. I also have issues with my own marriage where I blame my wife for everything, thinking I have the ‘facts’ why I do so. This means something says ‘you also have a part in this’ whenever I try to look for reasons why I’m always right, or I think so. Please keep writing…

    John

    1. Robert Martin Lees says:

      John, thank you for this heartfelt and honest comment. I truly appreciate you sharing your thoughts and your own experience. That feeling of panic, of watching something precious drift away—it’s a pain I remember all too well, and you’re right, it can absolutely destroy what little patience we have left.

      You hit on something so profound when you talk about ‘one hand cannot tie a bundle’ and the struggle of blaming your wife for everything while thinking you have the ‘facts.’ That’s the very essence of the ‘cycle’ I talk about. For years, I was stuck in that same trap, convinced I was always right, always the victim. It was only when I finally stopped pointing fingers and started asking, ‘What is my part in this? What can I “honestly” control?’ that anything began to change.

      You ask if programs like this can help when love feels one-sided, or if healing has to start with both hearts open. My experience taught me that while it takes two to build a healthy relationship, healing often has to start with one. One person, committed to breaking their own cycle, can create a ripple effect. A program like ‘Mend the Marriage’ gives you the tools to work on your side of the street, to become the stable, attractive, and whole person your partner fell for. It’s about taking back your power, even when you feel powerless.

      It’s not about forcing someone else to change, but about becoming so grounded in your own truth and healing that you either inspire them to meet you there, or you find the strength to move forward with clarity.

      Thank you again for your vulnerability, John. Your words resonate deeply. Please keep sharing your journey.

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